Self-care is a pretty vast, yet popular topic going around these days. I see it everywhere, almost to the point where it gets annoying. Some people associate self-care with certain practices while others are still trying to figure out what it means to them. What some practices people may see as self-care may be torturous for others. Maybe you like reading books, while to another person that’s their own personal version of hell. It’s different for everybody. However, there is a core foundation regarding finding what it means to you …

Knowing Yourself
This can mean a variety of things, and I know it sounds just as vague as the concept of self-care. Knowing yourself is knowing what energies will raise your vibration. Notice the music, atmosphere, and people that tend to inspire you to become the best version of yourself.

For example: Going out usually lightens your spirit! (Or else you wouldn't go, right?!) Yet, look closely at the experience as well as the outcome of it. Notice how you feel after the experience. If you go out with friends and wake up the next morning laughing about something from the night before, and are grateful for the experience, while continuing on with the rest of your day.. then that’s great!!!  These are the kind of p
eople and places you want to be around.

Now, on the other hand, if you go out and wake up the next morning on the verge of tears as you're on hold to schedule an appointment with your therapist, while sitting in an Uber where the driver is blasting Jesus songs in the morning… and suddenly you find yourself contemplating your entire life…THEN, these are the people, actions, and places that are probably destructive. These kind of situations will not give you a positive perspective of yourself. All in all, both of those experiences will show you what you don’t want in your life and what you want more of. Knowing yourself is giving yourself the opportunity to experience life in all ways.

Look deeper into your choices..are you going out for the sense of lightness and laughter or is it to drink, etc, etc.. in order to cope with yourself and current state of surroundings?
It is not our external surroundings that are responsible or factors for our internal state, but it’s our internal beliefs and perception of ourselves that are a reflection in the external world.
If you valued yourself and knew what brings joy to you, you would most often attract people and places of the same resonance.

Self-care is taking care of your body, mind, and spirit. This shows up in different ways for all of us. The major key is to find an action in each category that you restate with.

Some examples for your body are: 
-Doing yoga
-Breathing exercises
-Eating fruits and vegetables
-Go on a run…not for weight loss or achieving your newest time goal for your 5k…but just run Phoebe in "Friends"
-Dry brushing
-Sitting out in the sunlight or forest bathing
-Get your blood tested to see if you have any vitamin deficiencies you should be concerned about, and if you do, then attend to that
-Go have sex
-Use a foam roller and stretch
-Learn about Ayurveda

Examples for your mind: 
-Gratitude list
-Go to a therapist
-Or find a new therapist
-Journaling all your feelings
-Learn about something you’ve always been interested in…a culture, religion, The Flat Earth Society
-Watch a documentary
-Call a friend
-Read self-help book
-Laugh, laugh, and laugh, I cannot stress this enough

Examples for Your Spirit: 
-Meditate, even for 5 minutes
-Express your creativity
-Listen to a friend with unconditional love
-Ask someone how you can help them
-See the light within someone else
-Pray to The Universe, God, or whatever you feel you experience
-The Ho'oponopono prayer/chant

Self Care is cool, it’s attractive, and will inspire those around you to do the same. We all want the best for each other. (I’m hoping..)  Self Care is making sure your body, mind, and spirit are in harmony. It is knowing what you feel good doing, and doing it. It is seeing your value and only accepting what aligns with it.


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